Wrapping up 2016

The year end post, as always.

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Picture the following in Morgan Freeman’s booming baritone,

If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prayed for courage, does God give him courage, or does he give him opportunities to be courageous?

These are lines from Freeman’s 2007 movie “Evan Almighty” and the reason I remembered them is because they pretty much sum up 2016 for me.Like any other year, 2016 too had its share of ups and downs. Joys and sorrows. But above all, to me, 2016 was a year of opportunities. It was the year I got the opportunity to discover new things, learn, evolve and more often than not, to dig deeper into my own psyche to understand why I do what I do sometimes. In certain aspects, I am a better person today than what I was in December 2015, but in certain aspects I am the same (oh, and in some aspects there regrettably has been a downward slide too). But to me, overall that signals that I did not stagnate. So Woohoo to that!

Very recently, I came across articles online as to how 2016 was generally considered unfortunate and that people cannot wait for it to end. I found that amusing. Don’t people realize that one man’s poison is another’s payasam (or whatever that quote is!) 2016 to some is probably filled with some of the happiest memories in their lives, who knows, and they may never want it to end. And are we really that naive to believe that 2017 will only bring good tidings and nothing else?

In fact if one were to look at it slightly more philosophically, chapter 4/verse 22 from the Bhagavad Gita holds some pointers. In it, Lord Krishna uses the terms “beyond opposites” and “same in success and failure” This – and only this – is the key to a happy person (and hence a happy year). Till we truly transcend duality, every year is bound to remain a mixed bag.

So coming back to 2016, what did the year teach me?

  • That I need an all-encompassing vision in life. That for a richer and fuller life, I need to get rid of my tunnel vision syndrome (I guess that malady grew with me, haha!)
  • The application of Srimad Bhagavad Gita in practice, I got some practical taste of SBG’s warnings and recommendations on important topics such as duty and results, ego, anger and so on
  • That there are abundant sources of knowledge scattered all around if we are open enough to look for and grab the opportunities
  • That I need to manage my time, health and family better

What do I hope to accomplish in 2017?

  • Better health – both physical and mental. I need to become fitter not only physically but also mentally. I will need to confront my fears head on and not shy away from toughening situations – again, physically and mentally
  • Better management of emotions
  • Last but not the least – read more, write more

As a starting point, will end with some amazing points I learnt from Tim Ferris’ year end podcast.

  1. Power of the sub conscious mind – is infinite. Learn to feed it right and experience for yourself the results it can produce
  2. Look at areas that nobody has thought of – there is plenty of opportunity in those places. Look at things that don’t seemingly make sense – that is what is likely to happen
  3. Reframe your career as an opportunity to become a better you
  4.  If you don’t enjoy a universally appreciated book or experience, don’t fret. Maybe you are just not ready for it.Yet. Revisit is after a year or a few.
  5. Read, read and read a lot. On other areas and domains, especially, not directly connected with your line of work. It will open up new avenues you never knew existed.

So while we evolve, and till duality remains, here’s wishes for a”Happy” New Year 2017!

And in the spirit of the post, another Morgan Freeman quote to end it with.

People want me to do everything for them. But what they don’t realize is *they* have the power. You want to see a miracle, son? Be the miracle.

Siddhartha – a few thoughts

My attempting to review Herman Hesse’s “Siddhartha” would be like a primary school student attempting a treatise on particle physics. Of course not that there shouldn’t be such an attempt – there could be that rare child prodigy that can possibly do it, but I am not delusional enough to believe I am one! So I will limit this blog entry to simply record my thoughts on reading this remarkable book – in a simplistic bullet point form, no less!

Thought#1:

Wow, does this fascinating work by Hesse further propel the lore of German obsession with ancient India (Lufthansa? Swastika? theory of Aryan superiority? Sanskrit custodianship?)

#2:

Amazing finesse displayed by a European in his understanding and interpretation of Vedanta, through his tale of a young man in search of truth, with the ancient Magadha kingdom impressively backdropping the story.

#3:

The quest for liberation, it would seem, is universal. And the path laid out by ancient Hindu scriptures probably resonates with many a scholar, both Indian and non-Indian. The journey towards liberation, however, is uniquely one’s own. Siddhartha chose the experimental, non-conformist approach. And this is acceptable too.

Two, out of the many quotes, that particularly moved me –

“When someone is seeking,” said Siddhartha, “it happens quite easily that he sees only the thing that he is seeking, and he is able to find nothing, to take in nothing because he always thinks only about the thing he is seeking, because he has one goal, because he is obsessed with his goal. Seeking means: having a goal. But finding means: being free, being open, having no goal.

How deaf and stupid have I been!” he thought, walking swiftly along.
“When someone reads a text, wants to discover its meaning, he will not
scorn the symbols and letters and call them deceptions, coincidence, and
worthless hull, but he will read them, he will study and love them, letter
by letter. But I, who wanted to read the book of the world and the book
of my own being, I have, for the sake of a meaning I had anticipated before I read, scorned the symbols and letters, I called the visible world a
deception, called my eyes and my tongue coincidental and worthless
forms without substance

The questions that were born inside my mind by Siddhartha’s journey –

– is it wrong to stray from a scripture prescribed path in an attempt to understand greater truths? does it indicate intense longing and curiosity or just foolhardiness?
– who am I to judge those who seemingly do chart their own destinies and not necessarily stick to conventional paths to the ultimate truth?
– Calmness and equanimity were Siddhartha’s greatest strengths before the rot of sansara ate away into his inner being and corrupted him. Would a stronger understanding of scriptures have helped him to hold on to these strengths? Would that have helped in accelerating his quest?
– what does it take to redeem oneself after plunging into depths? Conversely, is it necessary to plunge into nadirs of experience and taste them to round out the quest and make it wholesome?

 

A book, I believe, has achieved its purpose if triggers thoughts and questions in its readers’ minds. I am glad I found this book, late but not too late either.

Marking 70th Independence Day in Cubbon Park

Gentle breeze, swaying trees. Vast stretches of greenery, as far as one’s eye can see. Canine companions and feathered friends, frolicking about under the shining sun.

No, don’t worry, I have not suddenly morphed into a (bad) poet unleashing a barrage of rhyming words and alliteration upon the unsuspecting reader. It is just that I am back after a refreshing visit to Cubbon Park (CP), one of our most sought-after weekend mini-picnic locations. For those of you who don’t know, CP is an island of tranquility in the Central Business District, amidst the bustling, cacophonous city that Bangalore has become.

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At least  1-2 times a month, our Sunday ritual typically includes rising early to reach the park by 7.30 AM followed by a walk/jog/cycling for forty minutes or so across its vast expanse, followed by a round of healthy juices and concoctions (made up of one of more of these – gooseberry, jamun, lemon, carrot, ginger, beetroot, அருகம்புல் – you name it and it is available)  sold by a friendly old man right outside the park and finally, winding up with a hearty breakfast at  our regular eatery on the way back home.

One reason that we keep our weekend date with CP without fail is that a good sixty minutes in the lap of nature is a rejuvenating experience is like no other. Whether you choose to amble along holding the hands of a loved one or simply take a brisk walk all by yourself, the pristine beauty of nature impacts you deeply. The greenery has been fortunately preserved well and now it is also interspersed with interesting, man-made art work and structures – including various totem poles and carvings on wood.

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The dense foliage never fails to mesmerize me every time. The canopy of leaves and branches, like in the picture above, remind me of a knotted bunch of nerves, and sometimes are so thick, that sun rays struggle to penetrate.  Dotting the park are islands of rose gardens, grass carpeted mini-parks and tree lined cul-de-sacs  where you can choose to sit quietly with the family and savor the nippy mornings, or play a sweaty game of tennikoit.

On Sundays, vehicles are not allowed inside the park and that means swarms of people like us who turn up in the park early in the morning for running, exercising, walking their dogs, cycling, doing Yoga in various contorted positions or simply uproariously laughing as part of their laughter club activities, can continue their quality time with nature and each other undisturbed. One side of the park is reserved for Sunday festivities. So you would chance upon a band playing, Bharatanatyam performance, an exhibition for organic produce or a Carnatic recital, depending on what the day’s agenda is.

Today being Independence Day, was extra special. There was festive fervor all around. Fluttering tricolors, merry kids playing with green-white-saffron ribbons, and cyclists and athletes in “I love India” T-shirts. There was also a line up of vintage cars strapped with tricolored ribbons and balloons. We also spotted a few media vans, with reporters milling around trying to get patriotic sound bytes from visiting families and park employees, who were of course more than happy to comply.

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Turns out our favorite eatery was not exempt from the Independence fever either. There were special menus and waiters dressed in tricolor T-shirts buzzing across the place, serving the unusually large crowd of guests with smiles and cheer. What’s more, kids got gifts packets of savories, sweets and chocolates with warm wishes of ‘Happy Independence Day’. There were selfies galore, and joy and warmth reverberated all around.

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The specials on the menu were ‘Independence Day’ Idlis and Dosas. Wow, it was certainly a sight to behold.

Soaking in the spirit of ID, I did my bit too – and added an impromptu Independent Day salad below for lunch. After all, fever tends to be  highly contagious, right?

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Thoughts on ‘Em and the big Hoom by Jerry Pinto

I’ve always felt an irresistible draw for quirky families living in dingy flats in the melting pot called Bombay. So after the Vakeels (Family matters) and Dalals (A Fine Balance) it was the turn of the Mendeses to lure me into their world.

I picked up “Em and the big Hoom” a few days ago, after I found lavish praise heaped on it online, especially after the author Jerry Pinto won the Windham-Campbell Prize earlier this year. I should admit that at first I was slightly skeptical about it, what with a seemingly pretentious title, if I may dare say and with a fantasy-adventure-ish quality to it, but I was pleasantly surprised to be proved wrong. It turned out to be a fantastic, unputdownable read, amusing and affecting, all at the same time.

The story is that of Imelda, the Biploar disorder-afflicted central character, and her family – husband Augustine and their daughter, Susan and son, the narrator. (Imelda and Augustine indeed are the titular Em and the big Hoom) How the family grapples with her illness and tries to retain normalcy in their otherwise cacophonous lives is colorfully narrated, with occasional touches of sadness and sentimentality.

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The book, in essence, is bouquet of beautifully expressed emotions. What does it mean to grow up in a home with a mother whom the world calls mad? What does it mean to be that mother herself? The ease and the effortlessness with which Pinto pens his characters’ thoughts is spellbinding. Nothing jazzy or bombastic, just basic human feelings laid bare on paper for readers to savor. Of course, if in a normally (you begin to question the very definition of this word, by the way) functioning human mind, when there are many myriad thoughts – funny ones, pleasant ones, scary ones, even immoral or illegal ones, produced and dismissed every second, what to say of an inexplicably mysterious and uncontrolled mind? And what if they all took shape in the real world in the form of words and actions? In flawlessly depicting this lies Pinto’s success. Sample this, a few sentences illustrating Imelda’s return to apparent normalcy after a bout of depression – Somewhere a helicopter is landing and the rescue team is beginning to attach straps to her body. She being airlifted from that Arctic floe; she’s being dragged free of the sucking earth. Summer is back.

The narrator does let us, the readers, into his head. But ironically his own mother does not let him or anyone inside her own head. How does a black drip turn into a stream that drives her suicidal tendencies, or why do the trenches dug by the municipality morph into family graves in her head, or who is the they that is after her and her family – the young narrator (or Imelda herself) has no answers for any these nameless anxieties or problems and he sums it well when he says, “Years of this, no, decades of this, had not taught Granny a simple truth. There was no way into my mother’s head. Not at this stage.

Though Em’s condition seemingly drives the family into anger and despondency, especially the narrator who more than the others struggles to cope, there is also plenty of room for hope, love, and bonding. Pinto remarkably captures the way these emotions take turns to surface and how the family passes through these phases together as one unit supporting each other.  And in a fitting end to the saga, it is the very same unit that huddles together to weather one final storm.

In summary,

A thoroughly enjoyable emotional roller coaster ride, a must-read.

Notes to Myself #4

(This blog is starting to become just a series of diary jottings. While that is still better than nothing, I am hoping to rectify this soon)

FeatherOf late, there have been some mental roller-coasters. My mind has been through some serious ups and downs, sometimes journeying from peaks to nadirs (and vice-versa) too quickly. These manic journeys it took across crests and troughs have now made it tired enough to look for a steady, non-adventurous path. And how does that happen? With distance. It happens when the mind learns to detach itself from these very sources of vacillation. It needs to step away so that it can stop seeing a small grain of sand as a boulder and instead see it for its real size. Keeping objects, people and events at a comfortable distance brings in the right perspectives automatically. In other words, objectivity steps in. The more the mind learns to work with her, the happier I will be.

I realized this myself too in the last few weeks. What had immensely annoyed me at one point later seemed to be not-so-bad. And what had enamored me previously, eventually lost its abnormal sheen. So turns out that nowadays what bothers me does not linger long enough to leave me perturbed and what gladdens me does not last long enough to turn me into a feverish euphoric.There cannot be better news! Now all I need to do is to train my mind to remember this and keep at it.

Of course the real test would come with bigger things. I don’t know how I will fare when that happens, but I sure hope this recent trend is here to stay. Maybe I have finally learned to stand at a distance from the unfolding theater and observe it without emotional tint? Maybe I am finally taking baby steps in the right direction towards the ultimate goal? Only time will tell, but I am in no tearing hurry either. I will wait to learn the answers.

 

A computer generated image of a chain with a broken link.

Am I finally learning importance of separating the Self from the role?

 

 

Notes to Myself #3

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What is the purpose of an arrow? The answer is obvious – to pierce its target!

But why, despite the target being in sight and the bow to propel the arrow being ready, does the target remain unattainable? The question had flummoxed me for long, and answer was revealed to me last week – because the arrow is blunt and crooked, not ready to meet its target yet.

I am the arrow, what should I do? For too long, I had assumed that the arrow would be sharpened and straightened in the course of time. But now I know that it needs effort – special, conscientious effort. I am the arrow. There is going to be pain, terrible pain as I let myself be hammered repeatedly and straightened. It is going to hurt like hell as abrasive materials scrape my surface, bruise my ego. I would need to do uncomfortable things, put myself to test repeatedly, and learn and grow. But I am going to do it all the same.

I need to move. I am not the stagnant water that accumulates more and more and let them all decay in me gradually. I am an arrow. I was created to travel, to pierce the target. But now I know I am  also the archer that will ready the arrow.

(Thought courtesy: SwamiP and MU)

Schengen Sojourn

A two-week work related trip to Netherlands gave me just the break I needed from the bustle at home. Shared here are notes and pictures from my weekend jaunts when there.

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Weekend-1 (The Hague)

Sleepless eyes and sore limbs didn’t deter us as we set out to explore The Hague, just a few hours after we landed in the Netherlands after a long flight from India. The Hague (or Den Haag, as the Dutch call it) although not the constitutional capital of the Netherlands, is a politically important city – it is the seat of the Dutch parliament, hosts the International Court of Justice, residences of the Dutch Royal family and is also home to most of the foreign embassies in the Netherlands.

It took us an hour by train to reach The Hague and our first visit was to the miniature city of Maduradom via a tram ride from the central station.

Maduradom, named after  George Maduro, replicates famous Dutch landmarks in miniature style (25 times smaller to scale)

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The nameless Hero of Haarlem greets you outside. 

 

The stroll inside is quite enjoyable, although the biting cold kept most visitors away on that day.

And since I didn’t get to see any of the real Tulip gardens, I was pretty happy to have seen this. At least these do not wilt away in the winter

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The coastline of North Sea is just a stone’s throw away from Maduradom. But gusts of winds were so strong and chilly that morning, that nothing in the world could have coaxed us to go anywhere close to the waters. We chose to turn around and made our way to the Peace Palace instead.

 

The Peace Palace

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Since this is a functioning palace building that hosts the International Court of Justice (ICJ), visitors are not allowed inside, but what we do get to see is a museum adjoining the Peace Palace that gives good information to visitors on the the key people involved and the important historical events leading up to the setting up of the ICJ, via a good collection of books, pamphlets and audio-visual guides.

By this point, it was late afternoon, and the cold, tiredness and hunger had gotten the better of us. We dropped our plans to visit Rotterdam (one of the many important tourist destinations I did not get to see this time), grabbed a quick lunch at a Showarma place, and finally got on the train to take us back.

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Weekend-2 (Brussels)

Note: I had drafted this post much before 22 March – that fateful day when Brussels was ripped apart by multiple blasts that killed and maimed many – and had no idea of what was to come. It still shudders me to think a few mad men had laid waste to some of the very places we had cheerfully roamed around hardly a month earlier. My heartfelt prayers for the city. 

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Brussels, the capital of Belgium  – the land of Comics, Hercule Poirot, mouth watering chocolates, Diamonds, Beer and much, much more – beckoned us on the first day of the second weekend of our stay. Braving the sub zero temperatures and chilly winds, we set out early in the morning. A few hours of train ride via picturesque European countrysides and a couple of station hops later, we found ourselves outside the crowded central railway station. But there was a small problem – we hadn’t done our home work. We had landed in Brussels with neither a city map nor a vague idea of where to start and what to do. It did seem daunting at first, but after roaming around for a few minutes, we lucked out and stumbled upon what seemed like an important place. It later turned out to be the Kunstberg or Arts Mountain.

 

Kunstberg or Arts Mountain

Monuments in Arts Mountain

Situated between the Royal Palace and Grand Palace, this was originally a hilly residential area later converted into a home of sorts for artistic symbols. A garden (unfortunately barren during winter), fountains (again non-functional, when we visited), wide cascading stairs and a host of important buildings and artistic imagery mark the area. Most importantly, it is a vantage point from where one can see a good part of the city

On the left, a glimpse of the vehicles plying on the cobbled streets outside Mont des Arts; The spire of the Brussels City Hall is visible in the background.

On the right, a statue of King Albert (grandson of King Leopold I, the first King of Belgium) greeting visitors at the entrance.

 

By the time we were done with the Kunstberg, luckily for us, we found just what was needed – a Hop-on-Hop-off bus stop.

A Hop-on-Hop-off ride is one of the best ways to explore Brussels. They have two routes (called the red-line and the blue-line) It comes at ~23 Euros for a whole day’s trip and gives you enough time and space to cover most important places at your own pace. We boarded the bus and started with the Atomium.

 

Atomium

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Atomium is a magnificent  exhibit consisting of giant, interconnected stainless steel balls meant to represent the structure of an iron crystal. It is not just beautiful to look at, but is also a museum in itself, a symbol blending the best of art and science. The day we went, despite the cold, there was a long queue of eager visitors waiting in line to ascend the Atomium and wander through the maze. We would have loved to too, but since there was so much more to see in Brussles and so little time left, we satisfied ourselves with a few photo ops from the outside and hopped on to the red line bus for our next pit stop.

 

The Waffle Factory/Manneken Pis

We skipped a whole lot of important locations (although we did get to see a glimpse of these from the bus – landmarks such as the Business District, National Basilica and The Royal Residence) and arrived straight at the Manneken Pis.

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(Brownie points if you can spot a urinating boy anywhere in the picture above)

The world famous Manneken Pis is a small, four-hundred-year-old bronze sculpture, depicting a urinating boy. But to our utter disappointment, it turned out to be located in a nondescript street corner thronged by tourists and was barely visible. Further more, it was so completely draped in colored clothing on that day, that we could have sworn we were at the wrong place.

So after the mandatory photo session, we trudged along and entered the shopping streets. And boy, what a greeting we got! All around us were rows and rows of shops selling sumptuous waffles, desserts and chocolates. A chocoholic’s heaven, it wasn’t merely a treat to taste buds but also to one’s eyes and nose.

After some shopping and a lunch of (what else, but) waffles and Frittes, we strolled on and entered another of Brussels’ famous tourist spots, the Grand Palace square.

 

The Grand Place

The central square of Brussels is a large, open area surrounded by important buildings and shops. Even on that cold, winter morning, it was bustling with visitors, shoppers, and mini markets selling a variety of stuff. Needless to day, some of that ‘stuff’ also prominently included jewelry and (more) chocolates.

 That’s us (whitened out, of course) posing in the vibrant courtyard/sqaure

 

 

By now, it was early afternoon and we had less than two hours left to board our train back. But then, another important destination remained – without visiting which we weren’t about to leave Brussels.

 

Comics Museum

The last item on our agenda was the Comics Museum, a short walk away from the Central Station where we had started our sojourn in the morning. A manna for comic-lovers, it is a beautiful three storied building located on  a neat cobble stoned street.

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Outside the Museum

 

Housing a wealth of pictures and information, the Museum brings out the origin and growth of comics in great detail.

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The Museum’s most famous inhabitant and his creator

The souvenir shop in the ground floor selling comics and comics-related collectibles is surely not to be missed too.

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 An original Tintin collectible I picked up

A memorable trip also had to end memorably. After an engrossing few hours in the museum, we realized we had only a few minutes left to board the return train. And that meant our last act of the day was a hurried exit and an Usain Bolt-like sprint from the Museum to the Station. Completely unmindful of the surprised stares of the people on the streets and fellow travelers, we made a dash to the station only to find that we’d had the train timings wrong and there was still some time before our train would arrive. It was thus, gasping for breath and over mirthful laughs, we ended our short but sweet trip to Brussels.

 

Weekend-2 (Amsterdam)

Another lovely train ride and another lovely destination. How could one stay for two weeks in the Netherlands and not pay a visit to its dazzling capital Amsterdam? And it was but natural that we reserved the best for the last – the last Sunday of our trip was thus earmarked for the “Venice of the North”

True to its sobriquet, canals are the most distinctive feature of the Dutch capital. A canal ride is readily available for ~17Euros just outside the main station. Once you hop on the boat, it takes you on a guided tour across the city’s canals that span for over a hundred kilometers. Floating on serene waters, what one gets to witness is magical – glimpses of the past and future, the beautiful and the derelict, all at the same time, all part of the same city. The ride takes you back in history and explains how the city was born and grew and survived some of its worst experiences, including the Nazi occupation and Holocaust. Like most European cities, Amsterdam is a beautiful blend of the old and new, a reminder of bitter memories of the past, but nevertheless also a harbinger of hope.

Behind these lovely facades are a host of stories, many of them untold yet

Buoyed by that lovely ride, we had to ensure that our next stop was equally impressive. And it indeed turned out to be wonderfully so – the Rijksmuseum.

 

The Rijksmuseum

This museum, apparently the most popular (I surely can understand why) in the Netherlands, is a gift from heaven for art lovers. It houses rooms and rooms of precious relics of history some even dating back to the early 2nd millennium AD . The floors and rooms are themed and the themes are varied – ships, artillery, jewelry, musical instruments and so forth.

There are separate floors for art and paintings. The collection is fabulous, ranging from the pre-Renaissance era to contemporary art (Anish Kapoor) And of course, Rembrandt and other notable painters have their place of pride in the hallways  too. The themes are largely religious or socially relevant, as they were wont to in those times. Notably, there was a gruesome depiction of Herod’s soldiers killing infants and the villagers retaliating. Or that of the perceived differences in Catholics and Protestants  as two shores of the same river, one fertile and the other withering (cannot remember who was what 🙂 though) And there was one where daughters are trying to seduce their own father as mankind approaches its doom (Lot and his daughters? Not sure)

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I wish time had stood still while there, but it didn’t and before we knew it was time to return. It was with a heavy heart and through a super human effort I tore myself away from those hallowed galleries, walked towards the exit and finally boarded the tram back to the main station.

A busy week at work loomed ahead and it was time to end the sight seeing trips.We had barely covered a twentieth of what needed to be visited in Amsterdam, but this time we knew it was surely quality over quantity.

I sure hope I will get to go back there soon. Important places (Rotterdam, Antwerp, Luxembourg) remain to be seen and important experiences to be had (like ambling across acres of tulip garden). But till then, I am happy to have been there and come back safe, carrying fond memories that I will treasure for ever.

Culture

As an aside, wanted to mention this special Dutch tradition. The birth of a child in the Netherlands is celebrated by distributing this special delicacy – a type of dutch rusk with a Muisjes topping. Muisjes are sugar coated and colored aniseeds (they taste very much like our own அரிசி மிட்டாய் in Tamil) and literally mean ‘little mice’

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Expectedly, blue/white muisjes mark the birth of a baby boy and pink/white ones mean baby girl. Apparently, the royal Dutch babies get orange/white colored aniseeds in their honor, irrespective of their gender.

We managed to take this picture above showing the last lot of the rusks my boss’ boss had treated us to (on the birth of his baby boy) before they were all devoured. A yummy tradition indeed!

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Birthdays…

I’ve often wondered in the past – aren’t mothers the true hero(ine)s of any birthday? Why celebrate and wish me on the special day when after all, on the same day many years ago, it was my mother who lay writhing in pain on a cold hospital birthing table, enduring hours of agony, while I merely just… popped out?

But now, long after after I first experienced birth pangs myself, I know the answer to that. Nature has purposefully designed women to forget the suffering associated with childbirth (we wouldn’t be 7 billion strong and counting, otherwise) Long after physical traces of the experience have vanished and the trauma receded from memory, what remains is the one true, beautiful gift from that day. For any mother, it is a special remainder – one to be cherished, taken care of and felt thankful for, all her life.

So Happy Birthday to anyone celebrating his/her birthday this day and on the days to come. I am sure your mother wouldn’t pass up anything in her experience of bringing you to the world. Not even the severest of pains.

Notes to Myself #2

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It’s been the longest gap since I started this blog, and considering the too many goings-on recently, it is not a surprise. 2015 did not go or end all that well and when I hoped 2016 would start and work out better, turns out I was just being naive.

But then that begs the larger question, what is ‘good or better or bad’ really? These are merely subjective terms, meaningless and pointless by themselves. It it we who tinge things and events around us with these colors and label them. Everything that happens, does for a reason and there are two choices – to wallow in sadness and pity, or just look at objectively and use the opportunity to grow and mature as a person.

So remember,

  • Everything, and by that I mean E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G.,  is Iswara Prasadam
  • Do not give anyone the power to hurt you. Don’t just let them have it, effortlessly.

No more room for unbridled negative emotions!